In The Context of Real Life: Fair Does Not Mean Equal

Dear Readers-

This is a picture of all the younger cousins (minus Jude) together for a sleepover- totally sweet!

It was a very memorable moment for each of them probably for a lifetime.

This post is for them... the kids.

In the context of real life, fair does not mean equal.

It's a hard lesson to learn.

I didn't learn this lesson until way later in adulthood-  probably late 20s.

As a parent and teacher,

 I feel a deep obligation and responsibility

to teach this principle to my kids now.

 It comes up quite often in real life- even in Kindergarten and at home with small kids.

Imagine, how angry you feel as an adult being faced with this truth, now think about that same rage/anger brewing up in a child.

It's a struggle for sure.

It's important for us to grow. strong. healthier. kids. now- while they are young- to lessen the impact it has on their future as an adult.

The more unexpected things arise in my family or classroom community- the more situations I feel I have to verbalize and explain a version of this principle.

Context is key in terms of long-lasting change and fulfilling impact.

So, I'm careful to consider it always.

When I have to accommodate for one child, I have to cross-check myself if it's "fair" for the rest of the family or the class.  

The more I accommodate and explain myself, the more thoughtful and firm I am in  my "why" behind what I say and do.

My reason is always the same:  

Because _____ matters. *Insert the name of the person.

In the Bible, I've learned principles of love:  Loving God with all your heart, Loving others as you love yourself, and even Loving the Lost-  like a shepherd leaving his flock to seek out his one lost sheep.

 I. understand. it. more. clearly. as I. apply. this principle to my life.

I don't get offended by this truth anymore because I fully understand that it is a byproduct of a world where both good and evil both exist.

Because of this- I. find. myself. fighting. for. good. at. any. cost.

I am more courageous to say NO to my kids even if I know they won't react to it tamely.   I am quick to discipline and hold kids accountable.  I am quick to talk and teach the why behind their roles and responsibilities in any situation that's misunderstood.  I'm present and active-  I'm ready to live life with them no matter the cost.

 I. love. them.

Because they matter.

Fair may NEVER be equal.  

But being truly loved and seen can make the world a little more bearable.

With Love.  Always,

Crystal